Wonder of Wonders, Miracle of Miracles Whenever I share a journey of one of the Fertile Heart Moms and Dads who birthed her baby through adoption, I think of the lines from Fiddler on the Roof, “…of all God’s miracles large and small, the most miraculous one of all, is the one I thought would […]

“The Day Oprah didn’t save my life,” would’ve also worked as a title of this post. Both of those titles would’ve been telling the truth. Here is why. It was almost as I had dreamt it. Almost. In the dream, or rather a nightmare, the Oprah Crew showed up unannounced at the back door of […]

Let her rrrrroar, let her blow off some steam, vent, throw a punch or juice a river of green lemonade, but whatever you do, don’t turn your back on her. The part of you that clamors for more life. I don’t mean a child. Or more children. I mean more life. The first D, the one that […]

The Visionary Mama in us, is often, very often—I’d even say, most often— born through reaching the tipping point of frustration, grief, anger. Those less welcome responses in us, will either nail down the doors of the orphanage, or throw them wide open. The Orphan gets overwhelmed by inconvenient emotional reactions to whatever shows up in our […]

Whenever I ask someone, “What is the opposite of pleasure?” the most frequent response is: Pain, The opposite of pleasure is pain. This blog post is about offering an alternate answer to that question. A young woman I never met, we’ll call her Cynthia, emailed me the day after the free Fertile Couplehood Teleconference I led recently. Dear […]